I think, you wont solve anything by "unfriend"-ing people in facebook. Just saying. This happens a lot, it happened to me too (got deleted). I personally am fine with it, just bothers me that this is how people solve their friendship problems. Oh well.
and I found myself just nodding in absolute agreement. It seems that nowadays, people just want 'quick kill' solutions; electronic revenge via unfriending being one of them. To put it lightly, my favorite parody account on twitter @wolfpackalan said this about 'unfriending':
That just totally hits the spot for me. I am not saying you should go out and plot revenge on someone. It's not worth it really and it would just show a more terrible example of yourself than anyone else. What you should do however, is create real solutions, and not just shut people out of your life. Unfriending an ex is reasonable, you do need space and freedom from each other's posts after a break up, so is unfriending someone who does nothing but send you hate mail (obviously not a friend) or someone who stalks you and shows up at your door each day; but unfriending your childhood friends over small disagreements and say, opposing political views is downright petty and immature. Not only does it leave the problem there of you not having communicated being offended and possibly working things out, but it also just makes you look shallow. And stupid. Like trying to inflict pain on someone by throwing marshmallows.
We ought to solve things in person or at least communicate our points of disagreement properly. If someone offends you by posting racist images, tell them as objectively as you can. If you feel someone is misinforming others, send them a message or tell them in person that you feel the info is incorrect and this is why, if they refuse to change what they said/wrote, it's not your call anymore, you've said your piece. If someone's opinion is bothering you, just hit unsubscribe or hide. Remember: it's THEIR page, blog, or twitter site. Yes, you can engage in friendly debate, but know when to shut up. It speaks better of your character when you hold back than when you meet them head on; better yet, you have your own page, go share your views there.
At the end of the day, people will disagree. Not everyone will like your concept, idea or opinion and life is like that. Then, there's also people who are just trolls, and these kind should just be ignored. Remember (quoting from my favorite series, GOT): A lion does not lose sleep over the opinion of a sheep.
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